It is your wedding and so the ceremony and the reception should be a good reflection on your lifestyle. The wedding day is the day for you to present yourselves as a newly married couple to your 'society' -- to your friends and to your family.

So the right answer to the "Can it be a fast dance song?" question lies really in, "How do you want to present your married life to your friends and family."

If there are members of your family who, for better or for worse, hold their traditions for a slow first dance song close and dear, then perhaps you can compromise for the sake of blending in nicely with your past and your future.

You can hire a professional DJ to create a First Dance song that starts out slow for a minute or a minute and a half, then roll nicely into a faster song that lets you show off your rocking selves with a fast song that gets the party started!